On Monday night, a young man who calls himself an “unsigned artist” on Clubhouse was in a room (similar to a chat) with me and 250 others.
The topic was speaking with confidence.
The man raised his hand, asking for feedback on a poem about the ruthless streets and people he’s known all his life.
Clubhouse is an audio-only app, so everyone in the room could only hear this man’s voice.
A deep baritone enveloped with the thickness of the streets.
His avatar was a logo; we had no idea what he looked like.
We went merely by the sound of his voice, his mumbled words, his quick cadence.
It was nearly impossible to understand his words.
He raced awkwardly through his poem and asked for feedback.
He apologized for sounding “so ghetto."
One of the moderators on stage with me asked him respectfully to slow down, enunciate and recite the poem again.
The feedback came in heaps of praise and love for this young man who...
We’re so quick to compliment others.
Still, most of us struggle to receive praise and kind words.
How do you respond when someone commends you on a business report, new hairstyle or an impressive run on the ski slopes?
Do you smile and gracefully thank the other person?
Or do you deflect their comments and start overtalking?
Consider this scenario: A friend says, “I love your shirt; is it new?”
One typical response is: “Yes, I got it on clearance and saved $20. I couldn’t have afforded the full price. The car broke down last week...”
Another common reply: “No, I’ve had this since last year; the button’s missing from the sleeve. Gosh, I’ve gotta buy some new clothes!”
The best answer, however, is one that is uplifting, positive and shows your own deep confidence.